Wednesday, October 04, 2006

Four Positions for a Better Orgasm

Of course you (woman) want a steamier sex life -- but there is more to it then candlelight and lingerie. There are actual tried-and-true methods for getting better stimulated and having the Big O. So, get ready for hotter sex with suggestions that will surprise and thrill your partner, from Deborah Sundahl, author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot. Feel free to print this out and bring it to bed with you. We doubt your partner will complain!

Modified Missionary
You've probably tried the standard missionary position before. But many women complain that they cannot achieve an orgasm with the man lying on top. This modified version should take things up a notch:

Lie on your back and put your legs over your partner's shoulders. This is a good position if you need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, and it is a nice way to begin to experience building a G-spot orgasm. He'll have a lot of control over stimulating your G-spot, and you can play with your clitoris to have an orgasm.

Mouth and Finger, Yum!
Many women have an easier time achieving an orgasm through oral sex than with intercourse. And since we can only assume that your partner would love nothing more than to try new ways to please you -- walk him through the following exercise:

Ask your partner not to use the tongue as a vibrator on your clit, but to caress your clitoris, urethra and vaginal opening with lips and tongue. Slower is better, so you have time to absorb all the sensations and to remember to relax.

When you feel aroused, ask him to insert a finger, ever so slowly, and rub your G-spot very slowly but firmly. Over time, your G-spot will become more easily aroused, and swollen, and less stimulation will be necessary to feel ready for orgasm.

The point of this exercise is to relax and allow the sensitivity and pleasure to grow and evolve by shifting your focus bit by bit from clitoris to G-spot, over many lovemaking sessions.

Face to Face on a Stool
A tall kitchen stool is perfect for communicating and slowly working up to soulful eye-to-eye communication. If you are used to closing your eyes and burying your head in the pillow, you'll find that in this position you are more present and equal. No one's weight is on anyone, you are facing each ther (he's standing and you're sitting). You can look down at his penis, and he can get valuable feedback about the types of strokes he is delivering when he sees your face and hears your delighted sounds.

Because this position provides intense stimulation to the G-spot and a clear, direct way to communicate, this is the best position for both of you to learn how to awaken and stimulate your G-spot. Your clitoris can also be easily stimulated.

This position is excellent for deep penetration -- if the stool is sturdy -- and for exploring how deep, penetrating thrusts can trigger the sensations of a uterine orgasm (different than a vaginal orgasm, but equally enjoyable). It's likely that at first you may not have an orgasm and you may not ejaculate, but it's worth it to explore a uterine orgasm.

Standing up from Behind
This position borrows certain elements of the popular "doggy-style" position, where the woman is on her hands and knees and is entered from behind. But if you try standing up, slightly bent forward, you'll find more pressure on the G-spot than with the traditional doggy-style position. Your partner's movements will push forward against your G-spot, and that's exactly what you want for good stimulation.

In all these sexual positions, it is important to have your G-spot aroused before he enters. Expressing your delight in your growing sensitivity and arousal is the best way to communicate with him. If he hears, "Oh, oh, my gosh! Oh, that is so sensitive!" he will slow down, but stay aroused and excited. If you say, "I need you to slow down," especially in a nonerotic voice, he may feel he is being dictated to or worry that he is not pleasing you. His fun and confidence will be affected and he may lose his erection. G-spot sensitivity, G-spot orgasms and ejaculating freely will not happen overnight. He'll learn a few things, and you'll give up a few things while you wait for him to catch up. Let him know when he really hits the target. It's helpful to say to your partner, "Oh, oh, oh, please remember that spot!" That gets the message across in an exciting way.

Don't expect him always to remember, but do expect him to catch on after a while. The great thing about all these positions -- and more generally about learning to awaken your G-spot -- is the gradualness with which this can occur. Unlike learning to have an orgasm, which often leads people to stick to one method, variety in how you experience pleasure and orgasm will increase as you slowly incorporate your G-spot awakening into what you already do.

sex position woman love

Let's face reality; women don't think that reaching orgasm is a lucky shot in the dark anymore -- nowadays, they want their juices to flow and they want it now. Today's sex tip will help every man learn about some of the great sexual positions that most women prefer. And sorry guys, on her knees performing
fellatio didn't make the cut.

More often than not, women are assertive and no longer behave like quiet little mice when it comes to sexual scenarios. Actually, the fact that most guys try so hard (there's that play on words again) to get their women to achieve orgasm is quite evident of this fact.

The following are five sexual positions that many women enjoy. So the next time you're about to get down to the nitty-gritty with your woman, try the following positions and ensure that she receives some great orgasmic pleasure.

private lap dance

Some women love being on top when it comes to sex. Why? It's all about control, and having the liberty of getting herself off is quite tantalizing. If she likes, she can give herself a clitoral or G-spot orgasm, or even both (with your help, of course).

If she lies on top of you and sways back and forth, pressing against your pubic bone, then she's aiming for the clitty climax. If she remains erect but leans forward, resting her weight on her hands while she goes up and down in a constant motion, get ready because she's doing her G-thing.

Then again, there are those multi-talented women that are able to take a man deep inside their vagina, swivel their hips as though they're dancing, and all the while, they periodically squeeze their Kegel muscles. This drives me... I mean men wild.

An even crazier position involves her squatting -- she kneels on her feet and only her vagina and your penis are connected (literally). This is quite an enticing position for both parties involved, although she must have stamina to keep it up.

The best thing about having your woman on top is that you get to watch her enjoy and pleasure herself with your body. You get to watch as she reaches immeasurable orgasmic heights while your hands are free to rub, hold, scratch, and maneuver her taut body.

the comfort zone

Believe it or not, lots of women love the missionary position. Yes, now I know that this position is considered to be the flannel pajamas of sex, but sex doesn't always have to involve swinging from the chandeliers and rough play.

Sometimes women (and even men, believe it or not) want to make "body love," which involves a whole lot more than just a vagina, breasts and a penis. There's eye contact, body massaging, and silent communication -- women love feeling like they're at the center of a man's world and what better way to show her you love her than to literally make love with her?

You don't have to keep up the typical in-out in-out motions of missionary either. Place a pillow under her buttocks, hold your upper body up with your arms, or even hold her butt with your hands (and she can do the same) -- all the while maneuvering as though you're dancing inside her body.

stand at erection
Although chances are that you won't last for very long in this position (I know I always lose control), an orgasm (or two) is virtually guaranteed for her with this one. Have her sit up on a countertop, tabletop, washing machine, sink -- any surface that'll have her at the perfect thrust position.

Standing in front of her while she's spread eagle (legs open), plunge yourself inside. Because you're going deep within her, it's sure to cause you to reach climax somewhat quickly. As well, you'll be tapping her G-spot at a constant pace and you may even get her to ejaculate all over your member.

Also, since you're out of the bedroom, it adds an element of intrigue and excitement
for both of you. Sometimes, even women want to get to the orgasm part of
lovemaking rather than have elaborate "last forever" sex. So read your
partner's messages and if she's in the mood to reach immediate heights of
pleasure, then give the lady what she wants.

She wants you to try the spoon position...

spooning it

While she's lying down on her side with her back facing you, you can let yourself inside her from behind. The great thing about this position is that you can hug her, whisper dirty little things in her ear, rub her breasts, feel the silhouette of her body, and kiss, suck and lick her neck and back.

Also, you can vary this position: she can turn her body so that her legs go over yours (her feet are in front of your butt) and she can look at you while you penetrate her at will. This position, as well as the "spoon," is not intended to be fast-paced, but rather slow and rhythmic.

The great thing about this position is that it allows for slow maneuvering and makes women feel like you're enjoying their entire body rather than just the sexualized parts. Even if she can't stand doggy style, she'll still love this position.

stoop doggy dog

Come on, you knew this one was coming. Many women enjoy this position very much because it allows the man to penetrate them fully. As well, you can cup her body by leaning forward and holding her whilst keeping a constant rhythm.

To add variety to this position, let her lie almost flat on the bed while you remain in the same position. This way, you can move at a leisurely pace and even position your body on top of hers to kiss her back. Under no circumstances, however, should you let your weight fall on her, otherwise you'll be doing it doggy with the blowup doll in your closet.

Saturday, September 30, 2006

Breast Size and Sensitivity

The size of a woman's breasts has no bearing on whether she enjoys having them sexually stimulated. Since breasts have become sexual objects in Western society, large breasts have
become symbols of greater sexuality. A woman with large breasts is often seen as being more sexual than a woman with small breasts, and she is expected to be inherently more sexual as a result. Unfortunately, women with small breasts may have them overlooked by their partner because of this false expectation, and women with large breasts may find their breasts receiving too much attention. Despite this expectation, large breasts are not more likely to be sensitive to sexual stimulation; recent studies have found women with large breasts have less nipple and breast sensation than women with small breasts, perhaps because the
nerve endings are distributed over a larger area. Keep in mind that a woman's emotional relationship with her breasts probably plays a larger part in whether she "enjoys" having them stimulated than their actual sensitivity to physical stimulation. A woman's partner should be careful not to judge her breast's sensitivity, or her enjoyment of breast stimulation, based solely on their size.


The nipple and areola are located near the center of each breast. They most often have a color and texture that is different from that of the surrounding skin. Their color varies from very pale pink to black, and darkens during pregnancy and lactation. Their texture can vary between very smooth to wrinkled and bumpy. The nipple usually projects outward from the surface of the breast. The areola is the like pigmented area surrounding the nipple. The size of both varies considerably from woman to woman, and some size variation is normal from breast to breast on the same women. The nipple and areola are composed of smooth muscle fibers and a dense network of nerve endings. The nipples become erect as the result of muscular contractions, not blood engorgement. Erect nipples are not by themselves an indication of sexual arousal. The nipple may become erect as a result of many forms of stimulation that are not sexual in nature, and a woman's nipples may not be erect when she is sexually aroused. The area of the areola is populated by several oil producing Montgomery's glands. These glands may form raised bumps and be sensitive to a woman's menstrual cycle. These glands act to protect and lubricate the nipple during lactation. Some nipples project inward or are flat with the surface of the breast. The later are referred to as inverted nipples and neither condition appears to negatively impact a woman's ability to breast-feed.

Stimulating a Woman's Breasts

Women often enjoy having their breasts lavished with love, which means gentle licks, nibbles, and caresses with lips, tongue, and fingers. Stimulate her entire breast, not just the nipple. Take your time. Get some body lotion or oil and massage it into her breasts. Her genitals may respond to breast stimulation, if they do, it is a good way to prolong sexual pleasure. While she is not likely to experience orgasms as the result of breast stimulation alone, it may be intensely enjoyable for her. Be aware of her menstrual cycle if she experiences breast tenderness. (Keeping a menstrual calendar is a good idea for women who need to keep their partner informed of cyclic changes in their body.) Be aware that there are women who need clitoral and nipple stimulation simultaneously in order to experience orgasm.

Some women discover they like for their breasts to be treated roughly while masturbating, and they can inform and instruct their partner how and when to do it correctly. Do not treat a woman's breasts like loaves of dough you are kneading or bite her breasts or nipples, unless she consents to this type of stimulation. Some women do enjoy this, but it is not something all women enjoy, and even those who do need to be in the right frame of mind if they are to enjoy it.


A girl or woman who has not permitted a male partner to insert his penis into her vagina is commonly accepted to be a virgin. Others define a virgin as any girl or woman who has not
had sexual contact with another person, and who has not explored her own body as well. Strict religious doctrines require virgins to not only forgo physical sex but also sexual thought. Still others say a virgin is a girl or woman who has an intact hymen. Your definition of a virgin depends on your point of view.

There are always exceptions to every definition of what constitutes a virgin. The above definitions do not take into account homosexuals and intersexed individuals. At what point does a lesbian become a non-virgin? If an intersexed individual without a vagina accepts a female identity will she always be a virgin? If a girl is born without a hymen is she never a virgin? What about sexually abused girls and raped teens? If you did not consent is that the same as consenting? If a bi-sexual teen is a "technical virgin," a person who engages in sexual touching and/or oral sex but not vaginal intercourse, still a virgin even if she has had twenty sexual partners? Virginity is a spiritual attribute not a physical one. A virgin and virginity are what you believe them to be.

Male multiple orgasm-part8 (stopping)

  1. Stopping "right" before ejaculation

Continue masturbating, except this time, keep going until you reach orgasm. Right as you orgasm you should notice several contractions that signal the beginning of ejaculation in the base of your penis and perhaps even deeper inside your pelvis. As these contractions begin or preferably just before (but still during the orgasm), stop all stimulation to the penis and squeeze the PC muscle tight. You'll probably feel yourself trying to ejaculate, but hold it back! Squeezing your PC muscle effectively shuts off your ejaculation, if you are successful, and erases the refractory period.

A small amount semen may seep out, but not with any of the force you might normally experience during an unrestrained singular orgasm. If you were able to hold off ejaculating after your orgasm, start masturbating again now. It should feel as though you are still very aroused, not like you just ejaculated. You should be able to continue for a short time until you have another orgasm.

If you were unable to keep from ejaculating the first time, either your PC muscle isn't strong enough yet or you squeezed it at the wrong time. If you begin squeezing too late after the ejaculatory contractions have already begun, it is nearly impossible to shut stop the process completely. With practice you will learn the timing.

Male multiple orgasm-part7 (practicing)


  • You can begin experimenting on your own at first (while masturbating.).
  • Make yourself comfortable and then begin masturbating as you might normally.
  • Stop just before you reach the point of no return (the point where you would ejaculate). Contract (squeeze) and hold your PC muscle for a count of ten.
  • Allow yourself relax and take a few minutes break.
  • Begin masturbating again, this time bringing yourself just a bit closer to the point of no return, again contracting your PC muscle.
  • Continue masturbating while paying very special attention to your own state of arousal and emotional feelings. The key here is to learn more about your own sexual response so that down the road you'll be more in control of it.

Male multiple orgasm-part6 (preparing_yourself)

Preparing yourself

Having multiple orgasms as a male is pretty remarkable, but it will take a great deal of preparation. As mentioned earlier, one of the first steps is to discover the PC muscle. It’s essential to become intimately familiar with this muscle in order to learn to control it very precisely. Some of this control will come with experience, but most will come by trengthening it through regular exercise. Once it’s been discovered where it is (most easily while urinating), it can be exercised anywhere, without anyone knowing.

Male multiple orgasm-part5 (Breathing Exercises)

Breathing Exercises

  • Sit in a comfortable position relaxing the shoulders.
  • Place hands on the abdomen, just below the belly button.

  • Inhale deeply. Breathing deeply through the nose, so that the belly pushes out.
  • Exhale fully. Exhale to a point to a point of which the belly contracts back to the spine. The pelvis and testicles may feel as if they are pulling up slightly.
  • Repeat this exercise from 9 to 36 times.

Male multiple orgasm-part4 (How is multiple orgasm possible)

How is multiple orgasm possible?

The male and female sexual "response cycles" are strikingly similar. The primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women are able to have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm because they do not ejaculate (not withstanding reports that some women are able to ejaculate, as this has never been adequately scientifically explained).

Ejaculation initiates the refractory period in males. During this time, most men are unable to achieve another erection or even receive further stimulation due to the loss of sexual tension and the penis is usually too sensitive to touch. Since women are not biologically programmed to ejaculate, they do not have this annoying feature and are able to learn about and achieve multiple orgasms much easier than men.

The first key to understanding how men can have multiple orgasms is to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are distinct events, which one can learn to distinguish and separate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm beginning slightly before (ejaculation) then tapering off during ejaculation.

The second key
to navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation.

The ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or "PC muscle" as it’s more commonly known. You may know this muscle
for its ability to stop the flow of urine in mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If this is the case you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before you'll be able to have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC muscle you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward. 

Male multiple orgasm-part3 (Multiple orgasms versus Ejaculatory orgasms)

Multiple orgasms versus Ejaculatory orgasms

Both begin in the same way, moving from arousal until a point near ejaculation or "point of no return". At this point a man will experience a series of genital contractions lasting three to five seconds. These contractions are "pelvic orgasms" and at first feel like a "fluttering" or mild release of pressure. Once identified and controlled, these sensations will become progressively more intense.

When approaching "the point of no return" the goal is not to crest over into ejaculation but to decrease stimulation, just long enough to gain control over the arousal rate. Effective control can be achieved by squeezing the PC muscles. Learning to control the PC muscles is essential to sexual health and stamina.

In the diagram below, the plateau stage is represented roughly as a heightened state of arousal which will eventually lead  into orgasm if stimulation is allowed to continue.

Notice how the two charts differ. In a typical singular orgasm including ejaculation, the plateau phase is reached and passed  fairly quickly as the orgasm subsides and ejaculation occurs. In a multiple orgasmic encounter, the plateau phase is reached and sustained after the initial orgasm and between the next orgasm. The successive orgasms are also slightly stronger than the previous ones, if and when the man decides to ejaculate with the final orgasm. Ejaculation is optional, after several orgasms it may be decided not to ejaculate at all. In which case, the arousal pattern closely follows that of a woman and gradually declines over about an hour's time instead of declining very sharply after ejaculation.

Male multiple orgasm-part2 (Sexual Arousal Cycle)

Before continuing it would be important to better understand the technical process involved in the " Sexual Arousal Cycle." *

1. Excitement Phase

2. Plateau Phase

  • Further increase in penis tip size and testicles
  • Full testicular elevation
  • Purple hue on corona (although not always)
  • Cowper’s gland (pre-cum) secretions
  • Hyperventilation

3. Orgasm Phase (Consists of Emission & Ejaculation)


  • Sperm and fluid are expelled from the vas deferens, seminal vesicles and prostate gland, causing seminal fluid fluid to collect at the base of the urethral bulb near the prostate.
  • Myotonia – muscular rigidity just before the release tension
  • Blood pressure and respiratory rate increase further.

Ejaculatory Inevitability (point of no return) There is a consciousness of imminent ejaculation.


  • Bladder sphincter closes tightly
  • Rhythmic contractions of the prostate, perinial muscles and penile shaft propel semen outward.
  • A slight clouding of consciousness

4. Resolution Phase

  • Erection loss
  • Testes descend and scrotum thins
  • Reversal in myotonia and vasocongestion
  • Reduced heart rate and lowered blood pressure.

Male multiple orgasm-part1

Any man can become "multi-orgasmic". It only requires a basic understanding of male sexuality and certain techniques. Most men’s sexuality is focused on the goal of ejaculating, rather than on the actual process of lovemaking. Once a man becomes multi-orgasmic he will not only be able to better satisfy himself, but also more effectively satisfy his partner.

Technically, multiple orgasms occur in succession, without complete loss of sexual arousal in between. Women are blessed with the ability to have multiple orgasms. Not many are aware that men with proper training, can actually do the same. In the case of women, multiple orgasm means resuming sexual stimulation shortly after a first orgasmic climax, usually immediately or within a few minutes, so that a second climax may be reached. If the woman does indeed experience further climaxes during the same sexual encounter, she is said to be multi-orgasmic.

Most men mistakenly believe that being able to regain their erection as soon as possible after ejaculation and reaching another climax within some arbitrary period of time qualifies as being multi-orgasmic. This is false because the true multi-orgasmic male does not lose his erection between orgasms. Multiple male orgasms include only orgasm and not ejaculation. The only exception being, when ejaculation accompanies the final orgasm in a multi-orgasmic experience.

Monday, September 25, 2006

Only Single Women Masturbate

There is a negative social stigmatism attached to the label of being a "single woman." The majority of women I know refuse to go to a public social event alone. How often do you see a woman by herself at a restaurant, the movies, or the theater, compared to men? It is "okay" to be single, but everyone would prefer to see you with a partner. It is socially acceptable to be a single man but less so to be a single woman. Since there are so few single women, and only single women need to masturbate, there are not many women who masturbate. While this is hardly true, it does describe the premise behind why some women do not masturbate. They do not because if they have a partner they do not feel they should have to, or if they are single masturbating would substantiate their single status. If they were not single they would not have to masturbate. Instead of masturbating they go in search of a sexual partner. This results in many unhappy unions and sexually unsatisfied women.

tighten vagina

Firstly, no chemical can tighten the vagina. Vinegar and other chemicals can upset the pH and the friendly bacterial populations in the vagina, leaving it prone to infections. Douching is harmful. Don’t put chemicals in your vagina. OK? OK.
Vaginas are made of muscles, and there are some very simple and effective exercises to firm them up so that they don’t feel so loose, and so you can squeeze them to make them feel even tighter. As a bonus, the exercises can improve everything from bladder control to labour to orgasms. It's named Kegel exercises.
Finally, often when people describe a vagina as tight or loose, they are referring to how easy it is to penetrate that vagina, which is really a function of how slippery it is. Slipperiness prevents chafing and injuries, so I recommend always keeping sex slippery. Muscular squeezing is a better way to increase sensation than dryness.

Thursday, September 14, 2006

Masturbation frequency, age and sex

Frequency of masturbation is determined by many factors, eg. one's resistance to transient sexual tension, hormone levels influencing sexual arousal (Physiology & Behavior, 2005 Oct 15; Vol. 86 (3), pp. 356-68), and one's attitude to masturbation formed by culture. (E. Heiby and J. Becker examined the latter[2]). "Forty-eight female college students were asked to complete a sexual attitudes questionnaire in which a frequency of masturbation scale was embedded. Twenty-four of the women (the experimental group) then individually viewed an explicit modeling film involving female masturbation. One month later, all subjects again completed the same questionnaire. Subjects in the experimental group also completed a questionnaire evaluating aspects of the film. Results indicated that the experimental group reported a significant increase in the average monthly frequency of masturbation, as compared to the control group. This same group, however, reported that the film had no effect on sexual attitudes or behavior."
It is thought that most people begin masturbating when reaching adolescence. Many scholarly and clinical studies have been done on the matter, and many informal surveys have asked the question. A 2004 survey by Toronto magazine NOW was answered by an unspecified number of thousands. [3] The results show that an overwhelming majority of the males — 81% — began masturbating between the ages of 10 and 15. Among females, the same figure was a more modest majority of 55%. (Note that surveys on sexual practices are prone to self-selection bias.) It is not uncommon however to begin much earlier, and this is more frequent among females: 18% had begun by the time they turned 10, and 6% already by the time they turned 6. Being the main outlet of child sexuality, masturbation has been observed in very young children. In the book Human Sexuality: Diversity in Contemporary America, by Strong, Devault and Sayad, the authors point out, "A baby boy may laugh in his crib while playing with his erect penis (although he does not ejaculate). Baby girls sometimes move their bodies rhythmically, almost violently, appearing to experience orgasm."
According to the Canadian survey of Now magazine readers cited above, the frequency of masturbation declines after the age of 17. However, most males masturbate daily or even more frequently well into their 20s and sometimes far beyond. This decline is more drastic among females, and more gradual among males. While females aged 13–17 masturbated almost once a day on average (and almost as often as their male peers), adult women only masturbated 8–9 times a month, compared to the 18–22 among men. It is also apparent that masturbation frequency declines with age. Adolescent youths report being able to masturbate to ejaculation six or more times per day, while men in middle age report being hard pressed to ejaculate even once per day. The survey does not give a full demographic breakdown of respondents, however, and the sexual history of respondents to this poll, who are readers of an urban Toronto lifestyle magazine, may not extend to the general population. This may be that females are less likely to masturbate while in a sexual relationship than men. Both sexes occasionally engage in this activity, however, even when in sexually active relationships. In general it is believed that individuals of either sex who are not in sexually active relationships tend to masturbate more frequently than those who are; however, much of the time this is not true as masturbation alone or with a partner is often a feature of a healthy relationship. For both males and females, masturbation is a way to relieve stress and anxiety. Although there are countless masturbation techniques for men, uncircumcised males are said to have more sexual arousal than circumcised males due to the rubbing of the foreskin on the glans, though this is a widely disputed claim with only mild anectdotal evidence to support it.

Male masturbation techniques

Male masturbation techniques are also influenced by a number of factors and personal preferences. Techniques may also differ between circumcised and uncircumcised males, as some techniques which may work for one can often be quite painful for the other. According to Beaugé, uncircumcised males with an intact but non-retractile foreskin typically masturbate by pulling the foreskin forward and away from the body [1].
Likely the most common male masturbation technique is simply to hold the penis with a loose fist and then to move the hand up and down the shaft until orgasm and ejaculation is achieved. When uncircumcised, stimulation of the penis in this way comes from the "pumping" of the foreskin. This gliding motion of the foreskin reduces friction. When circumcised, the stimulation is from direct contact with the hand (or hands). Many men massage (with some using a personal lubricant to reduce friction) the glans, the rim of the glans, and the frenular delta.
Another technique is to place just the index finger and thumb around the penis about halfway along the shaft and move the skin up and down. A variation on this is to place the fingers and thumb on the penis as if playing a flute, and then shuttle them back and forth. A less common technique is to lie face down on a comfortable surface such as a mattress or pillow and rub the penis against it until orgasm is achieved. This technique may include the use of an artificial vagina or simulacrum to achieve orgasm.
There are many other variations on male masturbation techniques. Some men place both hands directly on their penis during masturbation, while others use their free hand to fondle their testicles, nipples, or other parts of their body. Some may also use vibrators and other sexual devices more commonly associated with female masturbation. A very few, extremely flexible males can reach and stimulate their penis with their tongue or lips, and so perform autofellatio.
The prostate gland is one of the organs that contributes fluid to semen. As the prostate is touch-sensitive, some directly stimulate it using a well-lubricated finger or dildo inserted through the anus into the rectum. Stimulating the prostate from outside, via pressure on the perineum, can be pleasurable as well.
Ejaculation of semen is sometimes controlled by wearing a condom or by ejaculating onto a tissue or some other item. A controversial ejaculation control technique is to put pressure on the perineum, about halfway between the scrotum and the anus, just before ejaculating. This can, however, redirect semen into the bladder. It may also cause long term damage due to the pressure put on the nerves and blood vessels in the perineum. A dry orgasm is one that is reached by withholding ejaculation. Proponents of tantric sex say that this is a learnable skill that can shorten the refractory period.

Female masturbation techniques

Female masturbation techniques are quite numerous and perhaps more varied than those of males. They are influenced by a number of factors and personal preferences. Techniques include stroking or rubbing of the vulva, especially the clitoris, with the index and/or middle fingers. Sometimes one or more fingers may be inserted into the vagina to repeatedly stroke the frontal wall of the vagina where the g-spot is located. [4] Masturbation aids such as a vibrator, dildo or Ben Wa balls can also be used to stimulate the vagina and clitoris. Most women caress their breasts or stimulate a nipple with the free hand, though for some the breasts are not a receptive area for sexual stimulation. Anal stimulation is also enjoyed by some because of the high density of nerve endings located there.

Lubrication is sometimes used during masturbation, especially when penetration is involved, but this is by no means universal and many women find their natural lubrication sufficient—some even produce more lubricant alone than with a partner, though the reasons for this seem to be primarily psychological.

Masturbation techniques

Ways of masturbating common to members of both sexes include pressing or rubbing the genital area, either with the fingers or against an object such as a pillow; inserting fingers or an object into the anus; and stimulating the penis or vulva/clitoris with electric vibrators, which may also be inserted into the vagina or anus. Members of both sexes may also enjoy touching, rubbing, or pinching the nipples or other erogenous zones while masturbating. Both sexes sometimes use lubricating substances to intensify sensation.
Reading or viewing pornography, or sexual fantasy, are often common adjuncts to masturbation. Masturbation activities are often ritualised. Various fetishes and paraphilias can also play a part in the masturbation ritual; potentially harmful or fatal activities include autoerotic asphyxiation and self-bondage.
Sometimes in order to achieve a larger, more pleasurable orgasm, people may masturbate to near climax, then hold off to reduce excitement for a short while and then continue again. This can be done numerous times and usually results in a more pronounced orgasm in the end.
It can be harmful, but some get sexual pleasure by inserting objects into the urethra, [1] such as urethral sounds. This practice is known as "sounding". Sometimes other objects are used (e.g. ball point pens and thermometers). This is a potentially dangerous practice that can cause injury and infection.


Masturbation is the manual excitation of the sexual organs, most often to the point of orgasm. It can refer to excitation either by oneself or by another (see mutual masturbation). It is part of a larger set of activities known as autoeroticism (also. Autoerotic Response), which also includes the use of sex toys and non-genital stimulation. There are also masturbation machines used to simulate intercourse. Masturbation and sexual intercourse are the two most common sexual practices, but they are not mutually exclusive (for example, many people find the sight of their partner masturbating highly erotic). Some people are able to achieve orgasm only through masturbation and not sexual intercourse. In the animal kingdom, masturbation has been observed in many mammalian species, both in the wild and in captivity.

Anal masturbation

Anal masturbation can be pleasurable for men and women of any sexual orientation, as the anus contains many sensitive nerve endings. For men, anal masturbation can be especially pleasurable because it often stimulates the prostate, which also contains sensitive nerve endings. Indeed, some butt plugs for men are specifically shaped for prostate stimulation. For women, insertion of an object into the anus can indirectly stimulate the vagina. Since the muscles of the anus contract during orgasm, the presence of an object holding the sphincter open can strengthen the sensation of the contractions and intensify orgasm for both men and women.
Enemas or anal douches are, for hygenic reasons, often taken prior to anal masturbation, but they can also be a form of anal masturbation themselves: see klismaphilia. Using enemas too frequently can lead to a physical dependence on them in order to have a bowel movement, however.
Since the anus does not produce natural lubrication, it is important to apply lubricant to the anal area before insertion of any object. Many people report that they have tried anal insertion, whether by a toy or a penis, but have not repeated the experience due to painful sensations; these sensations were most likely induced by the lack of the usage of a lubricant. In order to increase the chances of pleasant and pain-free insertion, it is important to understand that at rest, the muscles of the sphincter are contracted (clenched) for the retention of waste, so in order to receive a foreign object, it is useful to push outward as if defecating. This opens the sphincter and allows for much easier and pain free insertion. At first it may feel strange to do this in a non-defecation context, but providing that the rectum is empty of waste this will not result in any undesired or unexpected expulsion of fecal matter, so one can push without fear. The feeling of wanton abandon and dirtiness in pushing outward in this manner has been reported to be an important aid in the enjoyment of anal sex or anal masturbation. Whether new or experienced, the importance of lubrication cannot be over stated. The initial insertion should take place very slowly and gradually to allow the muscles time to adjust to the introduction and presence of a foreign object.
Commonly inserted objects include butt plugs, anal beads and phallic vegetables or fruits.

Sunday, September 03, 2006


Human pregnancy lasts approximately 9 months between the time of the last menstrual cycle and childbirth (38 weeks from fertilisation). The medical term for a pregnant woman is genetalian, just as the medical term for the potential baby is embryo (early weeks) and then fetus (until birth). A woman who is pregnant for the first time is known as a primigravida or gravida 1: a woman who has never been pregnant is known as a gravida 0; similarly, the terms para 0, para 1 and so on are used for the number of times a woman has given birth.

In many societies' medical and legal definitions, human pregnancy is somewhat arbitrarily divided into three trimester periods, as a means to simplify reference to the different stages of fetal development. The first trimester period carries the highest risk of miscarriage (natural death of embryo or fetus). During the second trimester the development of the fetus can start to be monitored and diagnosed. The third trimester marks the beginning of viability, which means the fetus might survive if an early birth occurs.

Kegel exercise

Kegel exercise designed to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscles.

The aim of Kegel exercises is to restore muscle tone and strength to the pubococcygeus muscles in order to prevent or reduce pelvic floor problems and to increase sexual gratification. Kegel exercises are said to be good for treating vaginal prolapse [1] and preventing uterine prolapse in women [2].

Kegel exercises may be beneficial in treating urinary incontinence in both men and women [3]. Kegel exercises are also known as pelvic floor exercises, or simply Kegels.

Although Dr. Arnold Kegel has contemporized and popularized this practice, it is by no means new. The Taoists of ancient China developed a number of different sexual practices to strengthen and tone these same muscles for health, longevity, sexual gratification, and spiritual development. Directly akin to the Kegel exercise is the Taoist practice of the Deer Exercise.

Benefits for women Factors such as pregnancy, childbirth and being overweight often result in the weakening of pelvic muscles. Kegel exercises are useful in regaining pelvic floor muscle strength in such cases. Regular Kegel exercise can also increase sexual pleasure for females and their partners. After childbirth, practicing pelvic floor contractions during sexual intercourse with a male partner will allow the woman immediate feedback from her partner, who can tell her whether or not he can feel her muscles tightening around his penis. In this manner, a newly postpartum woman can retrain her pelvic floor muscles to their pre-pregnancy strength and tone.

Benefits for men Men can also use Kegel exercises.They are used to strengthen the pubococcygeal muscle, which may allow them to achieve orgasm without ejaculation and perhaps reach multiple climaxes during sexual activity [4]. In men this exercise lifts up the testicles, also strengthening the cremaster muscle as well as the anal sphincter. While women are able to add resistance to the exercise through isometrically gripping a hard object, or by compressing an object such as foam or a penis, there are no known techniques that would add resistance to male Kegel exercises. Some believe draping a towel over the shaft and lifting it does this, but any force possibly applied to the muscle in this way would be limited to the biological inheritibility of the penis' shaft to stay erect and resist bending, in a combination of blood flow ('hardness'), genetic construction, and tissue integrity. No serious scientific studies have been done into the 'bodybuilding' and strength-building of the member through this method, although a niche market definitely exists in the realm of penis enlargement, and various urban legends abound for (with groups dedicated to the propogation of) methods of strengthening and enlarging the penis through various methods of exercise and resistance.


The female clitoris corresponds to homologous parts of the male penis, i.e., embryologically it comes from the same tissue that forms the penis. The trigger for forming a penis instead of a clitoris is the action of testosterone in utero.

The organ is formed out of corpus cavernosum, a rich collection of capillary tissue with a substantial presence of nerve tissue. It contains roughly the same number of nerve endings as the penis[1], and it is particularly well-suited for sexual stimulation.

The outside portion of the clitoris, the clitoral glans, is entirely or partially covered by the clitoral hood or prepuce, tissue that is homologous to the foreskin in males. In humans, the clitoral body then extends several centimeters upwards and to the back, before splitting into two arms, the clitoral crura. Shaped like an inverted "V", these crura extend around and to the interior of the labia majora. Including external and internal components, it is thought the clitoris is similar in size to the penis.

Most of the clitoris is hidden, and external stimulation of the entire clitoris can result in a more profound sexual response. There is considerable variation among women with regard to how much of the clitoris protrudes from the hood and how much is covered by it, ranging from complete, covered invisibility to full, protruding visibility. Additionally, the size of the external clitoral shaft varies greatly; it may be smaller than a pencil eraser, or larger than a grape[2]. Recently, urologist Dr. Helen O'Connell discovered that erectile tissue lies beneath the external glans, splitting off into two 11 cm "legs", with more tissue branching down near the vaginal opening.[3] One explanation advanced for the vaginal orgasm is that it results from stimulation of the internal parts of the clitoris during vaginal penetration. Nevertheless, some women experience both clitoral and vaginal orgasms and distinguish between them in terms of both the physical and general sensations associated with each, and the structure of the G-spot, located inside the vagina, must also be taken into consideration.

During sexual arousal, the clitoris enlarges as its erectile tissue fills with blood. Shortly before orgasm, this erection often increases further, drawing the clitoris upwards, so that viewed from the outside it actually appears to shrink.

G - spot

G-spot is a small area in the genital area of women behind the pubic bone and surrounding the urethra. It is named after a German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg. It was once believed to be a bundle of nerves in or around the vaginal walls but is now reported to be the same as, or part of, the urethral sponge (Heath, 1984), the site of Skene's glands, a homologue of the prostate that exists in many women believed to be the source of female ejaculation. It is located on the ventral side of the vagina, about half way between the pubic bone and cervix. When this spot is stroked, there is a sensation or urge to urinate, but if the stroking is continued during sexual arousal it can be sexually pleasurable (Shibley Hyde, J. and DeLamater, J.D., Understanding Human Sexuality, Eighth Edition (2003)). For some women, it can be a primary source of stimulation leading to orgasm during intercourse while having sex in positions that use the penis to stimulate the frontal wall of the vagina.

The G-spot may not be just one discrete spot. Natalie Angier contends that it is merely the deep nerves of the clitoris as they pass through the tissue to connect with the spinal column. The clitoris has deep roots and may in fact change in size and slightly change in location as hormone levels fluctuate throughout a woman's life.

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